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Month: December 2018

Biggest Blessing of 2018

Biggest Blessing of 2018


As another year comes to a close, I’d like to take a moment to acknowledge what a transformative year it’s been. And to give thanks for my Biggest Blessing of 2018.

At the start of this year, I told myself over and over again that this is it, this is my year! And honestly, in SO MANY ways, it absolutely was my year. I think what I didn’t know leading into this year was just how much healing I had left to do.

I learned again what it means to let go. Most of the time instead of saying learning how to let go, I refer to it as the art of learning how to not fall apart. But, no matter how you or I choose to look at it, it’s a necessary form of healing. And yes, it does require letting go, and in doing so, you really do start to fall apart less. Through it all, no matter how much it hurts, you’ll find healing. After all, what other option is there? Hanging on only hurts and none of us want that.

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Sunday Night Random Ramblings

Sunday Night Random Ramblings


Hey there! Things have been kind of quiet around here, huh? I ended up taking an unintentional break from writing while I was on vacation in Florida, but I’m back! I hope you all had a lovely holiday. I relaxed, sat outside in the sunshine to read (surely don’t get to do that during December in Michigan!), spent time with family and a sweet little puppy, baked a cake and cookies, ate A LOT of said cookies, enjoyed delicious food, AND went to the beach. The Florida weather was absolutely beautiful and I super loved it! I’ll probably do a picture post sometime in the near future…because you know I took a ton of pics!

Other than all of that goodness, I’m here today with a Sunday night edition of Random Ramblings. Kind of love these posts!

So, here’s the happenings-

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Toxic Relationships

Toxic Relationships


Oh, toxic relationships. This is a biggie and a tough one. I’m not just talking about intimate relationships either, because toxic relationships exist within families, friendships, and at work. And being in any form of toxic relationship is a sure way to learn about boundaries. Most likely, that you have none! Or that maybe you’re struggling to enforce the boundaries you have set. It’s tough, trust me. For sure no judgment here.

Toxic relationships have this conflicting dynamic – this constant back and forth between love and hate. Although, hate is a strong word and not one that I use, but for the sake of this topic, we’ll go with it. And while we’re at it, here’s an ideal song for this love + hate dynamic.

By now, I’m sure it’s easy to tell that I’ve been in this situation before. I admit though, that it’s hard to put that toxic label on a relationship that also taught me so much. And that, my friends, is exactly how one gets sucked into this dynamic – because it becomes reallllly simple to justify all the bad with all the glimmers of good. I’m willing to bet that 9 times out of 10, it’s those small glimmers of good, along with the feelings of love that keep you stuck spinning in circles. And keeps you justifying that it’s okay to stay.Newsflash: it’s not okay.

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