Today I’d like to talk about Alignment Time. Say what? Anyone who follows Jess Lively surely knows what “alignment time” and “getting into alignment” mean. But for those of you that don’t know, it basically means to find your internal happy place – to ensure your feelings, thoughts, emotions are all in line with one another. You’re essentially in alignment when you’re feeling happy, when you’re feeling ALL the good vibes.
I recently wrote about my daily routine + structure, where I talked about my morning and evening writing sessions. I consider both of these blocks of time to be my alignment time. In the early morning, my alignment time includes a strong cup of coffee and complete silence – and sometimes I’ll light a candle since it’s still dark outside. I’ll sit for a while sipping my coffee and then I’ll ease into writing. And in the evening, my alignment time is typically the last thing I do before getting ready for bed. I sit with my thoughts for a moment and then I’ll get writing. Sometimes I’ll have tea. Jess is also all about her “alignment drinks”, so it’s kind of a thing.
It’s no secret that writing is one of my happy places. I love words, and I love being able to articulate my thoughts and feelings so well in writing. Words are super powerful – always have been to me. They have the power to help AND hurt – ourselves and others. How we talk to ourselves is immensely important. I really struggled with this, and at just the right time, a book was given to me about positive self-talk. The book is What to Say When You Talk to Yourself by Dr. Shad Helmstetter. It’s a really old book, but it has a lot of good information. And the message is clear – it matters how we talk to ourselves.
Just prior to reading this book, I had been trying to take Jess Lively’s course, Flow With Intention Online (FWIO). I just wasn’t in the best place emotionally to be able to focus on the course, so I didn’t continue at that time. But, I did actually finish reading the book. And it was a game changer for me. Highly recommend it!
I ended up completing FWIO at the start of this year, and it was super incredible, and I highly recommend the course as well. For a few days before the course began, Jess asked that we track our emotions and whatever it was that triggered the emotion. As I’ve mentioned here before, I’ve been doing this since probably January or February of this year.
In my last post, I kind of gave you a glimpse into what it looks like when I track my emotions, thoughts, feelings. But I’ll go ahead and do it here again – in the moment, based on how I feel right now.
Accomplished + Proud – I worked really hard on creating my InstaQuotes / Social Squares for my Instagram account for my site (@cesca.rose.vitale). And I fiiinally got to post some up today on my account. They look sooo pretty! I’m excited to make more and keep it going. It’s definitely a time consuming process, but I’m proud of my creations!
Vulnerable – Posting about some tough things to go along with my Instagram posts. It’s not always easy for me to be openly vulnerable, but I keep encouraging myself to be. It’s really important to me that I continue to learn and ALLOW myself to be vulnerable. I’m so used to keeping to myself – I’m trying really hard though to move outside my comfort zone and challenge myself. Anyone who knows me knows that I do not like opening up. But I’m doing really good, and I’m really proud of myself.
So this is basically what my process looks like. I usually have several more emotions – sometimes lots! It’s like taking inventory of yourself. I absolutely love when everything I write is on the positive side, as that’s when I know I’m in good alignment.
However, when I’m feeling off, sometimes it doesn’t help to write. There have been times when I write a few angry things and then I just say “I don’t know. I’m not feeling this today. I’m out”. And THAT’S when I know I need to give myself something more. Maybe that means I do something as simple as go get a latte, or take a walk. Maybe I listen to music. Or perhaps I just need silence and to be with my thoughts until I can release what is hurting me. Sometimes, at night, I’ll meditate – as I find that it calms me and allows me to really feel what I need to feel. Sometimes I cry because…I’m human. And I just need to let it out, and then I’m good to go.
What I truly love about this process is that I’ve become SO incredibly self-aware. I know when I’m in alignment, I know when I’m out of alignment. I know what I need to do to get into alignment. Honestly, I think a lot of people are afraid to be alone with their thoughts, and they certainly wouldn’t take the time to assess how they feel and what’s triggering how they feel. It can be scary, I get it. Confronting things that hurt, so that you can find a positive bright spot, is not easy. But I always remind myself that I must FEEL it to HEAL it.
I also mentioned before that sometimes if I have a negative feeling or thought, I intentionally choose not to write about it. Sometimes I can get away with that, and if so, I know it wasn’t really anything to worry about. But, if it keeps nagging at me, and is like WRITE THIS DOWN, then fine, I’ll write it. Why? Because it needs to be acknowledged and then let go of.
Through this process, I’ve learned so much about myself, and how my thought process works. I’ve also learned that I have the power to choose what I focus my attention on. I’ve learned how to process my feelings and emotions, and I’ve learned how to let go. Or well, I’m learning how to let go. It’s a heck of a process, but writing has allowed me to deeply reflect on all my hurt and to walk myself through what it takes to release that hurt and move past it.
The good thing is that, once you’ve worked through all that needs healing, you’re able to start finding and focusing on the bright spots in your life. And trust, there are plenty of bright spots – you just have to give them the same attention you give to all that negative stuff in your life. Easy? Nope. But certainly possible, as I’ve shown myself, and hopefully you too.
This post is majorly long now – thanks for hanging with me through it. Now, I challenge you to track your emotions for the next 3 days. And then maybe another day and another. Go on, give it a try! I promise you’ll find a lot of healing and positivity. Now that I’m mostly past the hard parts, I’m continuing to find so much joy in my life. I’m also finding and acknowledging everything I have to be grateful for, which this is also an incredible process for.