I am enough.
I am whole.
I am worthy.
These 3 statements are so important, and honestly, I never gave any of them much thought until I became self-aware and began examining my life. Like everything I’ve written about here, I didn’t start to acknowledge or recognize these things until about 2½ years ago. As I’m sure you can tell, that time was a period of transformation for me. One where I brought my head out of the sand, stopped reading book after book (my way to avoid), and started paying attention to myself and my life, instead of just going through the motions – which, I think we can all agree, is quite easy to do.
Prior to this time, I feel like I relied heavily on others for my sense of self-worth. Looking back, I never felt good enough, or worthy enough, and I didn’t really know what it meant to be whole at all, let alone what it meant to be whole all by myself. I thought that if I did everything within my power to live up to others’ perceived expectations of me that I’d somehow be happy with myself. But yeah, life doesn’t really work that way. My happiness is not found in making others happy, in their opinion of me, or in whether they see me as enough. We are each responsible for our own happiness and for how we view ourselves. You will never feel like enough, or whole, or worthy, if you are seeking validation from others, as validation lies within you and only you. And the moment you learn this is the moment you’ll begin to love yourself.
Certainly, all these things tie into self-love. It all begins and ends with you! If you do not love yourself first, naturally you won’t feel like you’re enough and you won’t feel worthy of love from someone else. So how does one get to that place of self-love? Well, I’d say everyone’s story is different and what led me to learning how to love myself may not be what teaches you to love yourself. It’s highly individualized. However, no matter the route or the journey, we must all learn that feeling enough, feeling whole, and feeling worthy all come from within. It’s all in how you see yourself and in learning that others’ inability to see your worth does not decrease your value. I wrote about this about 2 weeks ago – briefly anyway, as getting too personal about my experience proved to be more difficult that I expected.
These 3 statements also find their way into my “happiness jar” frequently – as a reminder to myself, on that given day and again when I read all my notes in the new year. It never hurts to remind yourself of these things, especially on the days when your struggling to feel like you’re enough. Which reminds me of one of my favorite songs – Lovely by Sara Haze. Even now this song seems to appear at exactly the right time. Have a listen for yourself. And always know you are enough, you are whole, you are worthy. And you are lovely just the way you are!